As Valentine’s Day approaches, many of us find ourselves torn between the nostalgia of youthful infatuations and the complexities of adult relationships. To navigate this sentimental season, I turned to the experts in matters of the heart: bestselling romance authors. Their insights reveal that the day can be as unconventional as it is romantic, offering fresh ideas for how to celebrate love—whether you’re coupled up or embracing singlehood.
A New Take on Tradition
Romance novelist Lynn Painter, known for her witty storytelling in *Better Than the Movies*, shared how she and her husband honour their own traditions. “We always order heart-shaped pizzas from our favourite local spot,” she explained. For Painter, the pressure to secure a reservation at an upscale restaurant can often overshadow the joy of simply being together. “Romance isn’t always about grand gestures; sometimes it’s just about the little moments, like eating on the hood of a car,” she notes, emphasising that the best memories often come from unexpected situations.
When it comes to gifting, Lynn suggests a simple yet indulgent treat: “I adore Dove chocolates with sweet messages, and you can’t go wrong with a classic Milky Way.”
Embracing Self-Love
Talia Hibbert, the author of the acclaimed *Get a Life, Chloe Brown*, shares her own approach to celebrating Valentine’s Day. “It’s a day to honour not just romantic love but self-love too,” she asserts. Hibbert recommends curling up with a good book, lighting some candles, and treating oneself to a pampering session—a wonderful reminder that single individuals can also revel in the day.
Her gift suggestions lean towards the personal. “I always want books, chocolate, and a lovely scented candle,” she reveals, offering a glimpse into her ideal Valentine’s Day treats. For those looking to gift literature, she suggests her upcoming release, *A Girl Like Her*, which embodies the essence of romance and self-discovery.
Celebrating Love in All Forms
For TJ Klune, author of *House in the Cerulean Sea*, Valentine’s Day is a time for reflection. “After losing my partner in 2016, the day has become more about finding love within myself,” he confides. This year, he plans to spend the day doing what he loves best: writing and editing.
Klune’s favourite Valentine’s treat is timeless: “I can’t resist holiday editions of Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups.” When it comes to literature, he suggests his earlier work, *How to Be a Normal Person*, which explores themes of identity and acceptance—a perfect gift for anyone on a journey of self-love.
Acts of Kindness and Connection
Meryl Wilsner, author of *Mistakes Were Made*, is taking a different approach this Valentine’s Day. Instead of the usual chocolates and roses, she plans to participate in a bystander intervention training session aimed at supporting those in need. “Valentine’s Day can be an opportunity to be intentional with our time, whether that means treating yourself or supporting your community,” she advises.
For couples looking for meaningful gifts, Wilsner suggests choosing something that resonates on a personal level, such as a book that features a romantic getaway, like her own *My Best Friend’s Honeymoon*, which transports readers to sun-soaked beaches and carefree adventures.
Why it Matters
This Valentine’s Day, let’s move beyond the commercialised celebrations and embrace a more authentic experience of love. Whether you’re pairing up for a heart-shaped pizza, indulging in self-care, or taking action for a cause close to your heart, the essence of the day lies in connection—be it with partners, friends, or oneself. As these authors remind us, the most meaningful expressions of love are often not the grand gestures, but the thoughtful, heartfelt moments that resonate with our values and experiences. In a world yearning for genuine connection, let’s celebrate love in all its forms.
