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As summer descends upon us, so too does a wave of relaxed social norms and a few etiquette quandaries that may leave you scratching your head. From the appropriateness of shirtlessness to the dos and don’ts of public nudity, it’s vital to brush up on summer etiquette to ensure your sunny escapades remain pleasant for all. Experts weigh in on the essential guidelines for navigating this carefree season with grace and style.
Appropriate Attire: What’s Acceptable in the Sun?
Shirtless in the City? Proceed with Caution
When it comes to the age-old question of whether men can wander shirtless in public, the consensus is clear: keep it to the beach or poolside. Zak Maoui, style director at Esquire, suggests that while there’s a certain casual charm to strolling around a seaside town without a shirt—preferably when abroad—this look is best reserved for hot climates. “Topless running in London? Only when it’s extreme heat,” he quips.
Towel Etiquette: Keep It Beach-Specific
As for those seeking a breezy cover-up, wearing a towel outside of a beach or pool context is strongly discouraged. Jo Bryant, training director of The English Manner, advises, “Unless you’re directly next to water, it’s best to put on some clothes.” A quick jaunt from your holiday accommodation to the pool is acceptable, but shopping or dining in swimwear and a towel? Absolutely not.
Workplace Wardrobe: The Great Shorts Debate
Shorts in the office can be a contentious topic. Myka Meier, author of Modern Etiquette Made Easy, cautions against shorts unless your workplace culture is notably casual. Some environments, particularly corporate settings, might see your attempt at comfort met with skepticism. “If the higher-ups are sporting shorts, you might be safe, but generally, tread carefully,” Meier adds.
Social Interactions: Navigating Public Spaces
The Dos and Don’ts of Sunscreen
When it comes to sunscreen application, it’s essential to be mindful of personal boundaries. Asking a stranger to apply sunscreen on your back? A definite no unless you’re well-acquainted. Etiquette expert Myka Meier advises, “It’s a level of intimacy that should be reserved for those you trust.” If you find yourself in need of sunscreen, it’s best to establish a rapport first, particularly in social settings like Wimbledon, where sharing might feel more natural.
Handling Sweaty Situations: The Delicate Balance
Summer heat can lead to some awkward interactions, especially when it comes to physical greetings. Elaine Swann, author of Elaine Swann’s Book of Modern Etiquette, reminds us that if you’re feeling particularly sweaty, it’s perfectly acceptable to skip the hug or handshake. “Politely declining can actually be appreciated,” she notes. If someone is approaching you with a sweaty embrace, a light-hearted suggestion of a high five can help ease the discomfort.
Dining and Drinking: Navigating Holiday Libations
Early Drinking: When Is It Acceptable?
On holiday, the rules bend a little, allowing for early morning pints—so long as you’re not drawing undue attention to yourself. Jane Peyton, a drinks educator, encourages a moderate approach: “Enjoying a drink early is fine, just keep it respectful.” Back home, however, moderation is key; an early beer can lead to an afternoon slump, so pace yourself wisely.
Potluck Protocol: What to Bring
If you’re heading to a summer potluck, how much food should you bring? Etiquette experts suggest aiming for a dish per adult in your party. If you’re the host, tactfully steering guests away from their less-than-desirable dishes can save you from culinary disasters—“Suggest they bring a bottle of wine instead,” Ho advises.
Why it Matters
Understanding and practicing summer etiquette is not merely about following rules; it’s about fostering a sense of community and respect during the warmer months. As we embrace outdoor gatherings, beach days, and sunshine-filled afternoons, adhering to these social norms ensures that everyone can enjoy the season comfortably. A little mindfulness goes a long way in making summer enjoyable for all, allowing us to bask in the warmth of both the sun and each other’s company.
